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Top 10 First Date Tips

September 29th, 2017|0 Comments

No matter how you look at it, the concept of ‘dating’ is a bit strange - particularly at the beginning. You meet up with a virtual stranger [...]

The Instant Attraction Illusion

August 27th, 2017|0 Comments

A frustrating aspect of my work as a Jewish matchmaker is witnessing intelligent, successful and experienced Jewish singles walk away from good people and potential long-term partners [...]

The First Move

July 31st, 2017|1 Comment

A Jewish matchmaker’s thoughts on equality in dating There seems to be a lot of confusion and controversy around how proactive a woman should be when dating [...]

Lost in Love

June 21st, 2017|0 Comments

As a Jewish matchmaker I have conversations about love with singles from all walks of life and a common concern of many is a tendency to become [...]

Top 5 Dating Turn Offs

May 26th, 2017|1 Comment

If there is one thing we can say about online dating, everyone’s got a story - usually, quite a few of them. And by story, I mean [...]

Dating Insanity

April 30th, 2017|2 Comments

One famous definition of insanity is ‘doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Nowhere do I see this more clearly than in the [...]

The Non-committal Man

March 27th, 2017|0 Comments

This blog post can be considered an extension of last month’s topic, ‘excusing bad behavior” which focuses on the fact that women make a lot of excuses [...]

Excusing Bad Dating Behavior

February 20th, 2017|0 Comments

A Jewish matchmaker gets real about excusing bad dating behavior... This month’s post is written with my female audience in mind. I’m hearing from a lot of [...]

Learn to Love Better

January 24th, 2017|0 Comments

A Jewish matchmaker claims it’s not all about romance…it's about learning to love better As a Jewish matchmaker who has been working with singles for over a [...]

Matters of the Heart

December 27th, 2016|0 Comments

I’ve been working with singles for over a decade, and one thing that continues to surprise me is how capable, intelligent adults can get so confused when it comes [...]

Online Dating Scammer

November 22nd, 2016|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker shares the warning signs of an online dating scammer... There may be no more emotionally vulnerable position than when you are looking for love [...]

The Online Dating Dictionary

October 26th, 2016|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker spells out the newest dating terminology… Ever had a guy (or gal) from a dating site suddenly pull a disappearing act after you’d been [...]

Relationships Require Effort

September 26th, 2016|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker Reveals the Cold, Hard Truth... As a matchmaker, I have a birds-eye view of singles and the dating scene - from all angles: the [...]

Are You Ready for Long-distance Love?

August 24th, 2016|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker reveals the nitty-gritty of nurturing love from a distance… Many of my clients assure me that they are open to relocation when it comes to [...]

NPD or Asperger’s?

July 24th, 2016|4 Comments

A Jewish matchmaker discusses the surprising similarities... I often write about the red flags and damaging behaviors exhibited by malignant narcissists - or more specifically, those with [...]

Soulmate and Lifemate – are they the same?

June 16th, 2016|5 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker talks soulmates and lifemates and how to spot the difference... Many years ago, I attended a lecture given by a “relationship rabbi” on the topic [...]

The Truth about Women and Bad Boys

May 17th, 2016|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker takes on the myth of the 'bad' boy.. Over the years, I’ve heard many men (both clients and personal friends) affirm their belief that [...]

The Matchmaker’s Dilemma

April 12th, 2016|0 Comments

Successful Matchmaking Depends on You! As a matchmaker, I’m often stumped as to how to get clients to stop treating the matchmaking process the same way as [...]

Why Did He Disappear?

March 15th, 2016|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmakers Guide to “Ghosting”… Have you ever gone out on a date where everything “clicked”? The two of you had lots to talk about, lots [...]

The Economics of Love

February 12th, 2016|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker’s perspective on too many choices… There’s a phenomenon in Behavioral Economics called choice overload or “overchoice”. In a nutshell, it refers to having so [...]

Compromising Yourself

January 7th, 2016|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker draws the line between compromise and self-sacrifice... When it comes to relationships, the give-and-take of compromise is part of a healthy dynamic between partners. [...]

Rebuilding Trust

December 10th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Rebuilding Trust in Your Relationship Not everyone has the same approach to trust in a relationship. Some are able to trust from [...]

Best Face Forward

November 9th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker Wants to Know, What’s Up with your Profile Picture? When online dating first came on the scene, it was considered to be a questionable [...]

Intimacy After 50

October 14th, 2015|1 Comment

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Embracing the Sexual Benefits of Aging... Let’s face it, aging can be ego-slamming. Maybe it started when you noticed those first few [...]

Keeping the Peace

September 11th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to discipline and the step-kids... One of the biggest considerations for divorced singles with children is finding a new partner who is accepted [...]

How to be Irresistible

August 5th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Being the Best Partner in the World... Okay, I admit it, “Best Partner in the World”? Maybe we’re shooting a bit too [...]

Diffusing a Love Bomb

July 7th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker Distinguishes between Love and Love-bombing... Too often, I see singles who are swept away by early words of love and commitment after only a [...]

Dating Downtime

June 11th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to that Space “Between Relationships”... It’s written in Kohelet (Ecclesiastes) that “everything has an appointed season, and there is a time for every [...]

Afraid to Love

April 12th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker asks, could fear be holding you back? I have spoken with thousands of singles over the decade-plus that I’ve been a matchmaker and I’ve [...]

Fearlessly Forward

March 8th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmakers Guide to Learning to Trust Yourself... As a matchmaker, I find that many of my clients are shell-shocked from past relationships. If they were [...]

Stop Looking for Love?

February 8th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker Busts the Myth...  I would like to know who coined the phrase "You'll find love when you stop looking for it." This is completely nonsensical, [...]

Make Me Over

January 14th, 2015|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Profile Photos... The internet has taken dating to a whole new level and with the increased popularity of online dating in recent years, [...]

MATCHMAKING SUCCESS

December 15th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Getting the Most from your Matchmaker Everyone is their own unique blend of characteristics: wants, likes, dislikes, desires…and it is truly a [...]

10 Ways to Fall in Love with Yourself

November 13th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmakers Guide to the love affair of all love affairs Are you ready for a real “happily ever after”? It may sound corny but all [...]

Crossing the Line

October 9th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Healthy Boundaries One of the most important factors to a healthy self-esteem and a healthy relationship with others is the formation of [...]

The Dating Profile

September 18th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Rant on Expecting Too Much This month’s blog topic stems from my own personal pent-up frustration of years of witnessing clients read the profile [...]

Don’t Take it Personally

August 8th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to "letting it slide..." The righteous indignation of taking things personally; we’ve all experienced it. And we often make rash judgments and have [...]

The Lure of an Office Romance

July 19th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Mixing Business with Pleasure There is something ultra-enticing about an office romance. Those long gazes across the conference table, the innocent brush-by [...]

Look Before You Leap

June 7th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Online Dating Safety Specialized dating sites target singles by religious orientation to consciousness level, and everything in between. Need to do your [...]

Excuses, Excuses, Excuses

May 19th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmakers Guide to Recognizing Toxic Behavior The saying “love is blind” is not without its truth, its benefit, and its detriment. When we think our [...]

Love Yourself First

April 16th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to the Perfect Love Affair Love yourself. What does that even mean? Does it mean to always put your needs first? Does it [...]

Do Opposites Attract?

March 11th, 2014|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Making it Work If opposites attract, then odds are an introvert and an extravert will be drawn to each other. Initially, this [...]

Does Age Matter?

February 3rd, 2014|2 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to the May-December Romance May-December romances have always been a controversial topic and given today’s over-exposure to the lives of the rich and [...]

First Date Protocol

December 7th, 2013|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Advice for Rockin' a Great First Impression I’m often asked, “Is there a protocol for a first date?” Well, not necessarily, it depends on [...]

“I Don’t Want Kids” – When Parenting Isn’t a Priority

November 20th, 2013|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Busting the "Selfish" Myth Most of us have grown up around certain societal expectations: graduate high school, go to college, get a [...]

A Graceful Exit

October 11th, 2013|1 Comment

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Letting Go Break-ups are never easy. Even if you know it’s the right thing to do, there is still a feeling of [...]

Long-distance Relationships

September 16th, 2013|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Love and Long-distance Relationships As a Jewish matchmaker, one of the first questions I ask a potential client is, “are you willing [...]

Is it Love or Lust?

August 16th, 2013|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Answers the Question; Is it Love or Lust? The beginning of a new relationship can be so exciting and distracting that we often get [...]

Is Your Mr. Right Actually Mr. Wrong?

July 8th, 2013|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Distinguishing Mr. Right from Mr. Wrong You think you’ve found the love of your life- the one you’ve been waiting for. Oh, the [...]

Playing Hard to Get?

June 3rd, 2013|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Response to The Rules With the publication of The Rules, a relationship book for women, there has been a rise in the perspective that playing hard [...]

Dating after Divorce

May 12th, 2013|1 Comment

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Dating After Divorce As a Jewish matchmaker, I’m often approached by newly-divorced singles who aren’t sure if they are ready to date again. [...]

Is Money a Taboo Subject?

April 8th, 2013|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Money Talk  As a Jewish matchmaker I am often asked for advice from singles on the issue of how to handle monetary issues within [...]

How Much Should You Sacrifice for Him?

March 31st, 2013|0 Comments

One of the greatest sources of frustration is how much we sacrifice for him, and how it can go completely unnoticed/unappreciated. How could he simply run off with someone [...]

The BIGGEST Obstacle to SUCCESS

March 30th, 2013|0 Comments

YOU are! That’s right! The biggest obstacle to success is YOU! Let me ask you: Are you still searching for your soulmate? Or… Are you absolutely and utterly [...]

Cheaters are Emotionally Dissatisfied

March 5th, 2013|0 Comments

Are Cheaters Emotionally Dissatisfied? Many singles tell me that their last relationship ended because their partner cheated. Many of them are even afraid to get involved with [...]

Lessons on Dating and Relationships

March 4th, 2013|0 Comments

Lessons on Dating and Relationships 1. If a man wants to be with you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing will make [...]

Outdated Profile Photos is a No-No

February 13th, 2013|1 Comment

The biggest complaint I hear from Jewish online daters is the use of outdated photos in a profile. Men particularly find this habit frustrating and deceptive. Why [...]

The Top 10 Mistakes of Single Girls

February 7th, 2013|0 Comments

So you're single and don't really want to me. You're out there dating and relating and hoping to find the perfect match to your spark, but you [...]

Relationship Failure

February 1st, 2013|0 Comments

Sometimes the biggest obstruction in the success of your relationships is...OURSELVES! Oh yes, you've heard me say this before! Is it hard to believe? Is it hard [...]

Can We Love Unconditionally?

January 27th, 2013|0 Comments

Do you want your relationship to flourish? Do you dream of that life-long romance that weathers all obstacles? Can you love unconditionally? The first step to that [...]

Checklist for Love

January 19th, 2013|0 Comments

When I was sixteen, I made a checklist of what I wanted in an ideal man. A checklist for love! There were about 80 items: 30 physical [...]

Are You Too Needy?

January 10th, 2013|0 Comments

I'd always known that women who are too needy seem clingy and weak to men, and have written a few times on how not to appear needy in [...]

Is He Into Me?

January 6th, 2013|0 Comments

One of the things I've learned over the years is that everyone is on their own timetable, and just because one person isn't as intense as the [...]

Growing Old Together

January 3rd, 2013|0 Comments

For me, the idea of growing old together indicates a relationship that bends, changes and grows with the passage of time. Wisdom is gained, priorities and dreams are built and [...]

Pick and Choose

December 31st, 2012|0 Comments

Many people are under the misguided impression that a matchmaker is here to provide you with a virtual dating pool from which you can pick and choose [...]

Relationship Sabotage?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

How can you spot Relationship Sabotage? Relationship counseling is becoming more popular as couples are realizing that sometimes they need outside help! All too often, it is [...]

Single Parent Dilemma: Who Takes Priority

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Dating a Single Parent The longer you wait to marry, the greater the odds that you will be dating someone who is [...]

Common Interests: Are they a make or break?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Are Common Interests Important? It’s an age-old dilemma. If opposites attract, then why do we keep looking for a soul mate with common interests? Is it really [...]

Half In, Half Out – Dating While Separated

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Guide to Dating While Separated If you’re dating in today’s landscape, it’s almost inevitable that you’re going to eventually be confronted with the opportunity [...]

When He Doesn’t Call…

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

What Does it Mean When He Doesn't Call? While, the inner workings of the male psyche may be a mystery to women, situations such as these are [...]

A photo worth 1000 words … and 1000 miles?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Long Distance Love You are brave. Yes, you are! You’ve decided to take the plunge and render yourself helpless to a matchmaker in search of your “beshert”. [...]

Hiring a Jewish Matchmaker

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Jewish Matchmaker – NOUN: One who arranges or tries to arrange marriages, while “matchmaking” is any process of introducing people for the purposes of dating and mating, [...]

Reading Between the Lines — Is He Serious?

December 25th, 2012|1 Comment

Is He Serious About Us? Okay, so you’ve been dating for a while- well, at least a week or two, and it seems like your new squeeze [...]

What you shouldn’t reveal on a first date!

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

A Jewish Matchmaker's Advice on What You Shouldn't Reveal on a First Date “You never get a second chance to make a first impression” is never more applicable [...]

Being more flexible

December 25th, 2012|1 Comment

I often think that Hashem brought me to Jerusalem because he wanted to have an assistant at hand, at the headquarters. When people from across the world [...]

Perils of Online Dating

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Jewish online dating has completely integrated itself into normalcy, and is no longer viewed upon with suspicion or relegated to “losers”. These days, if you’re Jewish and [...]

Ditch Online Dating

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Do you waste time browsing Jewish online dating services? Here are 3 great reasons why you should ditch online dating websites and try something new. I’m 29 [...]

Show up as…. YOURSELF!

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

  Show up as yourself! What does it mean to "show up as yourself"? Ladies, seize the day! When you feel that you may have good chemistry [...]

Relocate For Love — are you up to the challenge?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

  Love and Relocation In these modern days of Jewish internet dating and Jewish Matchmaking, many potential partners live in separate cities, separate states and sometimes separate [...]

In The Stars — Astrology and Jewish Dating

December 25th, 2012|2 Comments

Astrology and Dating Given that Jewish tradition prohibits seeking guidance from soothsayers and fortune tellers, does astrology have a place in Jewish dating? Well, if taken in [...]

Coming On Strong

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Too Strong- Too Soon Have you ever met someone with whom you really hit it off, only to have them come too strong on your first date that you [...]

Jewish Soulmate — Are You Living in a Fantasy World?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

  Do you Dream of Your Jewish Soulmate? As a Jewish matchmaker, I have seen all kinds of clients: those who are very serious about finding their [...]

Finding True Love

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

The chances of finding your true love on line are almost as good as winning the lottery. Ask anyone that’s tried. Most won’t talk about it out [...]

The Art of Dating – Jewish Singles Blog

December 25th, 2012|1 Comment

  Birth of my Jewish Singles Blog Over the past few years, I’ve met thousands of Jewish singles from across the globe. Jewish singles from all walks [...]

Self Sabotage, are you a perpetrator?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Do you Self Sabotage Romance? The Jewish dating scene has been through many changes over the past five years, and the proliferation of self-service online matchmaking and [...]

“We had a great date; why didn’t he call?”

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Are you Left Wondering, "Why Didn't He Call?" Women all over the world are asking this very question, "why didn’t he call"?. They hypothesize, they dwell, they [...]

Be Yourself, or Someone Like You?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

How to Show up for Your Next Date - Be Yourself There is no lack of online articles and printed books that delve into all areas of dating and [...]

Still single?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Do You Ever Ask, "Why Am I Still Single"? Many people believe that the life you are leading is the life that you subconsciously desire. If that [...]

Attitude is Everything

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Even When Dating - Attitude is Everything So you’ve tried just about everything to find your soul mate and here you are, thinking about going the route [...]

Just how “perfect” is your perfect match?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Tall, dark, and… handsome? Is this really your perfect match? Would you be wiling to settle for just one out of three? Or are you like most [...]

Casual To Exclusive?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

<h2?Is it time to move your relationship from casual to exclusive?> If you have been dating someone for a while and are ready to start making a [...]

Should we do everything together?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Do Perfect Couples do Everything Together? We’ve all met one of those couples who look so happy in their relationship. They smile and laugh together, flirt with [...]

My Jewish Valentine

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

My Jewish Valentine Tu B’Av is the Jewish Valentine’s Day … Will your new love now come your way … Just in time to celebrate … and [...]

I Don’t Like Who My Friend is Dating!

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

So, you've found yourself in a situation where you don't like who your friend is dating. What should you do? should you speak up and share your [...]

Online Dating – is it for you?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

One of my favorite cartoons in the New Yorker had a photo of a dog talking to a cat on the internet. The caption read, “You can [...]

Dating for Dummies

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Dating for Dummies - should you hire a dating coach? A growing number of frustrated singles are getting guidance from a dating coach to help hone their [...]

Reality Dating Show To Find Your Soulmate?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Reality dating shows are the most profitable type of television programming around at the moment, so it’s no surprise there are dating reality shows too. The Bachelor, [...]

Seeking Barbie or Ken?

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Are You Seeking a Barbie or Ken? The most frustrating aspect to matchmaking is when clients give me a checklist of the characteristics they want in a [...]

The Second Date ”Debate”

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Picture the scene. You got up the nerve to tell your best girlfriend “yes” – that you would gladly meet her second cousin, Max, the one from [...]

Excuses, Excuses!

December 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Some common interests are great, but don’t maintain your personalities be matchy-matchy. To be happy with your other half it is not a requirement that he/she loves [...]

Lost in Love

June 21st, 2017|0 Comments

As a Jewish matchmaker I have conversations about love with singles from all walks of life and [...]

Top 5 Dating Turn Offs

May 26th, 2017|1 Comment

If there is one thing we can say about online dating, everyone’s got a story - usually, [...]

Dating Insanity

April 30th, 2017|2 Comments

One famous definition of insanity is ‘doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. [...]

The Non-committal Man

March 27th, 2017|0 Comments

This blog post can be considered an extension of last month’s topic, ‘excusing bad behavior” which focuses [...]

Excusing Bad Dating Behavior

February 20th, 2017|0 Comments

A Jewish matchmaker gets real about excusing bad dating behavior... This month’s post is written with my [...]

Learn to Love Better

January 24th, 2017|0 Comments

A Jewish matchmaker claims it’s not all about romance…it's about learning to love better As a Jewish [...]

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