Many people are under the misguided impression that a matchmaker is here to provide you with a virtual dating pool from which you can pick and choose and swim in a sea of eligible potentials. This is not the reality. Jewish matchmaking is for people who are serious about finding their soul mate because they are ready to settle down with one person.

Dating success is not achieved by throwing a slew of singles at you and hoping that one sticks; success is achieved by meeting potential matches one at a time until you find that one with whom something clicks. The dating process has less to do with quantity and everything to do with quality. A great matchmaker is someone who takes the information you have provided, and seeks to find your partner of similar compatibilities.

The dating process is ongoing and continually being refined. Don’t be discouraged if the first few potential matches don’t seem to fit exactly right. Provide constructive feedback about each match and your matchmaker will adjust her search until the right balance is achieved. The most important thing is that you don’t get discouraged, you don’t lose hope. Matchmaking is a process. Sometimes you strike gold right out of the box, and sometimes a little more time is required. There is a reason why the standard contract lasts for one year — because finding a partner to last a lifetime is serious business and you have to be ready to invest time and patience in the search.

The results are priceless.