Sometimes the biggest obstruction in the success of your relationships is…OURSELVES! Oh yes, you’ve heard me say this before! Is it hard to believe? Is it hard to accept? Well, if you continue to find yourself in failed relationship after failed relationship, and are beginning to feel like “relationship failure” is a flashing sign over your head, it might be time to look at the the one factor that is consistent in all of those failures – YOU. Let me reassure you, this is not intended to place blame or make you feel badly about yourself; it IS intended to prompt you to do some honest self-reflection so that you can better make a non-judgmental assessment of how you may be contributing to a pattern that is not providing you with the outcome you feel that you want.
If you recognize one or more of the following bad dating habits as something that you are doing in relationships, it may be time to reevaluate some of your own self-sabotaging behaviors:
*Not owning up to your mistakes – let’s call a spade a spade. If you’re to blame – man up!
*Online stalking – please girl! You’ve got better things to do with your time and energy!
*Putting your life on hold for your significant other – live your life for YOU – your best partner will compliment it.
*Ditching your friends for your date/significant other – NO, NO, NO!
*Setting impossibly-high standards – don’t set standards that you can’t even live up to – we’re human, you know?
*Setting disgustingly-low standards – come on, you’re better than THAT!
*Carrying emotional “baggage” from past relationships – the past is the past – leave it there.
*Basing your overall satisfaction with your life on what is happening in your romantic life – there is so much more to life than what is happening to you romantically and you’ve got lots of love to give. Shower it on the people who are in your life RIGHT NOW.
What other bad dating habits would you add to this list?