Do You Ever Ask, “Why Am I Still Single”?

Many people believe that the life you are leading is the life that you subconsciously desire. If that is the case, then why are you still single when you think you want to be part of a couple? It’s a complicated question, but as a professional matchmaker I want to give you some food for thought. I’m not going to attempt to psychologically evaluate the reasons you may still be single, but I can suggest some red flags that might indicate why.

Whether dealing with internet dating, a matchmaker, a blind date, or a serendipitous meeting, what are your main criteria when evaluating a mate? If your complaint is that you are looking for an honest, ethical partner but having no luck, then I can understand the dilemma. If, however, you are limiting your search for someone who meets your physical preferences, then I will tell you that you should be ready to stay single. If you are eliminating potential partners because they don’t meet some physical ideal of yours, I can almost guarantee you that you will simply never be happy with anyone, because NOBODY is going to exactly meet your ideal, and if you are superficial enough to use physical attributes as an eliminator, then your shallowness is probably obvious to your date, and they will lose interest in you. Single people today looking for a life partner need to keep an open mind.

A happy life in a rewarding relationship has a lot more to do with the moral qualities of your partner, than their physical attributes. If you limit your search to height, age, weight, and hair color requirements, then your odds of finding a partner and building a happy life are greatly reduced. Obviously, there should be a physical attraction between two people, but a large percentage of attraction is personality, and you can’t know if that invisible chemistry exists unless you take a chance and meet even those to whom you are not initially physically attracted. Basically, with my experience as a matchmaker you need to get your priorities in order and everything else will fall into place. And if you do so, you will be one step closer to that “coupledom”, that you say that you want.