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Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Romantic Love or Physical Attraction?
September 30, 2024
Do you ever wonder if your relationship is building on love that has the potential to last, or if what you (or your partner) are f...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: RELATIONSHIPS: My Interview with ChatGPT
September 01, 2024
“AI” is the new buzzword and ChatGPT is one of today’s most popular chatbots. Using publicly available info, licensed data, and da...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: The Romanticization of Dysfunction
July 31, 2024
Media plays a major role in shaping our perceptions and attitudes about relationships. Through movies, television shows, music, an...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Are You Close-Minded in Dating?
June 30, 2024
Dating is an adventure, a journey filled with excitement, vulnerability, and the possibility of finding love. However, for some, t...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: The Art of Providing Containment: A Guide for Men
June 01, 2024
This month, I want to talk about “containment”, a concept that you may or may not have heard of in regard to relationships. Contai...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: The Neurochemistry of Jealousy and Oxytocin
April 29, 2024
Jealousy is a complex emotional cocktail of insecurity, possessiveness, and fear of loss. From literature to psychology, jealousy ...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: How Relationships Help Us Grow
March 31, 2024
In life's journey, relationships serve as essential catalysts for personal growth and self awareness. Navigating a relationship wi...
Jewish Matchmaker Journel: Are Men Only Focused on Sex?
February 29, 2024
There is a widely held stereotype that men are single-minded in thought and only focused on sex. This stereotype reinforces the id...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Compassion and Codependency
January 30, 2024
In the intricate dance of human relationships, the line between healthy and dysfunctional behaviors can often blur. Showing compas...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: The Power of Quality Photos
January 02, 2024
As a professional Jewish matchmaker, I continue to be amazed and dismayed at the low quality photos that I receive from clients. I...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Dating Before Attraction
November 28, 2023
Attraction usually takes center stage as the primary factor that determines who we choose to pursue romantically. We're told to fo...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Our Collective Trauma and How We Heal
October 29, 2023
Jews are no strangers to trauma; we have a long history of it. We live every day with the knowledge that there were, and still are...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Intuition vs. Fear in Dating
October 02, 2023
Dating can be a thrilling, yet bewildering journey. We’re high on sensations, emotions, and hormones as well as being drawn into a...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Discussing Difficult Topics
August 30, 2023
Love, passion, and excitement often cloud our judgment when we embark on a new romantic journey. In the throes of early infatuatio...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: How to Find a Compatible Partner
July 31, 2023
Finding a compatible partner to build a life with shouldn’t be so hard. Technology has brought nearly the entire world within our ...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: The Effect of Filtered Dating Photos
July 01, 2023
As a Jewish matchmaker who repeatedly emphasizes the importance of using quality and flattering photographs in the dating profile,...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Giving Up Your Power
May 30, 2023
In recent discussions with clients, the concept of “giving up power” has come up a number of times so I thought I’d address it to ...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Rekindle the Romance
April 30, 2023
Sometimes the struggle isn’t about finding romance, it’s about keeping the romance. “Real life” presents all sorts of challenges t...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Dating Someone With Children
April 02, 2023
Many Jewish singles without children prefer the same in a partner. Not a problem if you’re still in your 20’s, but once you move i...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Situationship to Relationship
February 26, 2023
Navigating through the various forms of romantic relationships can be complex and challenging. One example is the “situationship” ...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Should Sex be a Make-or-Break?
January 30, 2023
As a Jewish matchmaker, I’ve been mulling this question over in my mind for at least a couple of years now. I’ve even posted about...
Jewish Matchmaker Journal: Love is Outside the Box
December 29, 2022
I’m prompted to write this month’s blog following some happy news that I received recently. Very happy news, in fact. I’m a Jewish...
The Good, The Bad, and Viagra
November 30, 2022
As a professional Jewish matchmaker, the topic of sex is always on the table. Sex is one of many aspects of a healthy relationship...
How Type is Holding You Back
November 02, 2022
As a professional Jewish matchmaker working to bring Jewish hearts together, I navigate through many biases and preconceptions. On...
The New Year and Setting your Intention
September 29, 2022
A “New Year” is more than a set date for the purpose of counting time. It ushers in the energy of renewal, rebirth, and a chance t...
The Alternative to Ghosting
August 27, 2022
“How do I let someone know I’m not interested? He’s a nice guy and I don’t want to hurt his feelings.” As a Jewish matchmaker, ...
Mostly For Men
July 31, 2022
The idea for this post started as a mental rant based on my experience as a Jewish matchmaker witnessing what I consider to be an ...
Good News About Long Distance Love
June 27, 2022
There has always been a healthy skepticism about long distance relationships and the odds of maintaining a successful one. As a Je...
How I Became a Matchmaker
May 31, 2022
I am often asked how I got my start as a Jewish matchmaker. It’s not a career path with a standard education or defined curriculum...
Preference VS Requirement
April 30, 2022
Their Proper Time and Function I began my career as a Jewish matchmaker almost two decades ago. Much in dating has changed over...
Level-up Your Love
March 31, 2022
Most love today is the disposable kind - largely based on physical attraction and “chemistry”. Everything’s great until the other ...
No "Bad" Dates
February 28, 2022
As a Jewish matchmaker, my life revolves around singles and dating. No joke. I’m truly a workaholic and rarely give myself time of...
Why You Lie to Yourself About Dating
January 30, 2022
Let’s talk about dating - or more accurately, why you are lying to yourself about wanting to date. As a professional Jewish mat...
Stop Swiping; Start Dating
December 30, 2021
“You never get a second chance to make a first impression” is no more aptly stated than when describing today’s dating environment...
Why You Might Not Find a Partner
November 30, 2021
I don’t want this post to be a downer, but I think it’s becoming clear that not all of us will partner up in this lifetime. The tr...
Your Crystal Ball
October 27, 2021
I miss the days when a blind date was a blind date, and a matchmaker could call and say, “I have a great guy for you; meet him”. T...
Unpacking Your Baggage
September 30, 2021
Everyone has baggage. This, I firmly believe. Well, let me clarify that - every adult has baggage. From what I’ve witnessed and ex...
Just Say YES!!!
August 31, 2021
As a Jewish matchmaker, my number one goal is to connect Jewish singles and help create Jewish families. No matter if the family i...
Shalom Bayit with the In-laws
July 31, 2021
A Jewish matchmaker shares tips on creating familial peace Given how challenging it can be to get along with one’s own family, ...
Unpacking Childhood Trauma
June 30, 2021
A Jewish Matchmaker discusses childhood trauma and adult relationships Let me begin this article by stating that I’m not a lice...
You (probably) Need Professional Profile Photos
May 31, 2021
A Jewish matchmaker rants about the alarming frequency of bad profile photos and why you need professional profile photos… Le...
Working For You – the ins and outs of secular Jewish matchmaking
April 30, 2021
A Jewish Matchmaker explains her process for finding your soulmate Are you curious about secular Jewish matchmaking? Have you eve...
Being Mindful in Relationships
March 31, 2021
A Jewish matchmaker discusses cultivating your mindfulness IQ The word “mindfulness” gets tossed around a lot these days. I’ve al...
Lets Talk Relocating for Love
February 28, 2021
A Jewish Matchmaker suggests relocating for love with intent Relocating for love is one of the first discussions I have with a cl...
Destined to be Alone?
January 30, 2021
A Jewish Matchmaker asks,“Have you given up on love?”. As a Jewish matchmaker with over a decade of experience, I want to call ou...
Differing Perspectives and Acceptance
December 31, 2020
A Jewish Matchmaker discusses differing perspectives and the relativity of truth Wow. What a year it’s been. No matter where you ...
Is Your Partner Commitment Phobic?
December 01, 2020
A Jewish matchmaker discusses fear of commitment As a matchmaker working with Jewish singles, I’ve learned that although a single...
Breaking up with Your Fantasy Self
October 29, 2020
A Jewish matchmaker discusses your fantasy self vs your authentic self The concept of your “fantasy self” has recently come into ...
An (after 50) Love Story
September 25, 2020
A Jewish matchmaker shares an inspiring love story of finding true love after age 50… Sometimes I come across a video or an artic...
Mussar in Romantic Relationships: Part 2
August 30, 2020
A Jewish matchmaker continues her discussion of Mussar in romantic relationships… If you haven’t read the first part of this two-...
Mussar in Romantic Relationships
July 29, 2020
A Jewish matchmaker talks the benefits of Mussar in romantic relationships I am currently reading Everyday Holiness – a book abou...
How to Sabotage a Relationship
June 25, 2020
It’s hard to admit, but we can be our own worst enemy when it comes to romance. Instead of nurturing relationships, our actions o...
Agree to Disagree
May 26, 2020
The old joke says if you have two Jews in one room, you’ll get three opinions. That’s funny unless the two Jews are coupled up, a...
Your Dance with the Narcissist
April 28, 2020
A Jewish Matchmaker explains how you and the narcissist are playing each other The Fairy Tale You and the narcissist – what a sto...
Love (and self-isolation) in the Time of Corona
March 22, 2020
A Jewish matchmaker encourages self-growth during self-isolation The corona pandemic and self-isolation response is a complete sh...
How self-objectification limits you
March 01, 2020
A Jewish matchmaker discusses the dangers of self-objectification We’re all familiar with the objectification of women. Being obj...
Ask These Questions Before you Fall in Love
January 30, 2020
A Jewish matchmaker discusses what to know before you fall in love Implied in this post is that we have control over who we fall ...
Love Is Your Superpower
December 31, 2019
A Jewish matchmaker explains how to save the world As we bid farewell to 2019 and welcome 2020, we are ringing in a new year, and...
Do You Attract Toxic People?
December 01, 2019
A Jewish Matchmaker’s advice on repelling toxic people and why they are drawn to you. As a Jewish matchmaker, I cater to Jewish s...
Self-love and Toxic Relationships
October 31, 2019
When you love and respect yourself, it becomes obvious when someone else is not loving or respecting you. – Meredith Miller One o...
The NPD Go-to Guide
October 01, 2019
I was blindsided by my narcissist. Until that relationship, I had zero knowledge about NPD or any other personality disorder. I k...
Becoming Your Authentic Self
September 01, 2019
Something that I strive for in my life is showing up as my authentic self, my whole self. This is not as easy as it sounds. You m...
Loving Your Unlovable Self
July 30, 2019
Self-love is a topic that I often write about. It’s a concept that is relatively new to my awareness (within the past five years)...
Your Head or Your Heart?
June 28, 2019
Have you ever felt torn when trying to make a romantic decision, as though there is a battle going on between your head and your ...
Childhood Patterning
May 27, 2019
“Relational (childhood) patterning from early childhood stays with us for a lifetime. If our parents told us they loved us (or pr...
Toxic Masculinity
April 28, 2019
The fourth installment of my series on masculine and feminine energy discusses toxic masculinity, which is a popular buzz term fl...
Feminine and Masculine energy: Part 3 – Masculine Energy Explained
March 30, 2019
In continuing with my posts on feminine and masculine energy, this blog focuses on masculine energy and what it looks like. If yo...
Feminine and Masculine Energy Part 2: Shift into your feminine energy
February 28, 2019
This month’s post explores ways that women can move into and stay in their feminine energy. Next month’s post will focus on men a...
Feminine and Masculine Energy: Part 1
January 29, 2019
For the next several months, I’m going to focus on feminine and masculine energy and how they affect our romantic relationships. ...
Self-love Language
December 31, 2018
For my last blog post of 2018, I’m inspired to combine two of my favorite topics: the Five Love Languages and self-love. Although...
An Existential Dialog on Self-Love
November 30, 2018
“The feeling that you want to feel already exists inside yourself.” I no longer remember where I read that statement, but I reme...
The Female Form
October 31, 2018
(An article about the female form might not seem to be related to relationships but make no doubt about it, the way a woman feels...
The Four Agreements, in Romance
September 29, 2018
‘The Four Agreements’, written by Don Miguel Ruiz as “a practical guide to personal freedom” can enrich all of your relationships...
The Myth of the Bad Boy- Revisited
August 29, 2018
Gents, can we be frank? Can I be honest with you and share a woman’s perspective on this belief that women want a ‘bad boy’? Yes...
Your Core Values
July 31, 2018
Most of us can quickly list the values that we seek in others: honesty, faithfulness, loyalty, and compassion. But do you know yo...
Love Language Basics
June 30, 2018
Love language basics is all about learning what love looks like to your partner so that you can better express your love in a way...
Unrealistic Romanticism
May 31, 2018
‘Romanticism’ – the word sounds kind of, well, romantic, right? According to Wikipedia, Romanticism was an “artistic, literary, m...
Subtle Red Flags
April 29, 2018
‘Red flag” is a term one hears a lot when discussing relationships – particularly in the early stages when we are on the lookout ...
Making Space for a Partner
March 29, 2018
Have you made space for a partner to come into your life? This is a question I’ve been asking myself lately. I am so content and ...
Get Vulnerable
February 28, 2018
One of the personal qualities that I seek to improve in order to be a better partner is my ability to get vulnerable. To be my au...
Are You Co-dependent?
January 29, 2018
I’ve been doing a lot of research about co-dependency and how to get the answer to the question, are you co-dependent? I’ve alway...
Relationship Resolutions
December 31, 2017
It’s that time again – the old year rolling’ out and the new year rollin’ in, and for many it’s a time to reflect on what didn’t ...
Red Flag Dating Behaviors
December 01, 2017
Red flag dating behavior is not a new topic for me, but it is one that I believe needs to be re-addressed on a regular basis just...
Violating Personal Boundaries
October 29, 2017
I often write about ‘boundaries’ and how vital they are to healthy relationships. In my opinion, it is important that our persona...
Top 10 First Date Tips
September 29, 2017
No matter how you look at it, the concept of ‘dating’ is a bit strange – particularly at the beginning. You meet up with a virtua...
The Instant Attraction Illusion
August 27, 2017
A frustrating aspect of my work as a Jewish matchmaker is witnessing intelligent, successful and experienced Jewish singles walk ...
The First Move
July 31, 2017
A Jewish matchmaker’s thoughts on equality in dating There seems to be a lot of confusion and controversy around how proactive a ...
Lost in Love
June 21, 2017
As a Jewish matchmaker I have conversations about love with singles from all walks of life and a common concern of many is a tend...
Top 5 Dating Turnoffs
May 26, 2017
If there is one thing we can say about online dating, everyone’s got a dating story and everyone’s got a dating turnoff – usually...
Dating Insanity
April 30, 2017
One famous definition of insanity is ‘doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Nowhere do I see this m...
The Non-committal Man
March 27, 2017
This blog post can be considered an extension of last month’s topic, ‘excusing bad behavior” which focuses on the fact that women...
Excusing Bad Dating Behavior
February 20, 2017
A Jewish matchmaker gets real about excusing bad dating behavior… This month’s post is written with my female audience in mind. I...
Learn to Love Better
January 24, 2017
A Jewish matchmaker claims it’s not all about romance…it’s about learning to love better As a Jewish matchmaker who has been work...
Matters of the Heart
December 27, 2016
I’ve been working with singles for over a decade, and one thing that continues to surprise me is how capable, intelligent adults ...
Online Dating Scammer
November 22, 2016
A Jewish Matchmaker shares the warning signs of an online dating scammer… There may be no more emotionally vulnerable position th...
The Online Dating Dictionary
October 26, 2016
A Jewish Matchmaker spells out the newest dating terminology… Ever had a guy (or gal) from a dating site suddenly pull a disappea...
Relationships Require Effort
September 26, 2016
A Jewish Matchmaker Reveals the Cold, Hard Truth… As a matchmaker, I have a birds-eye view of singles and the dating scene – from...
Are You Ready for Long-distance Love?
August 24, 2016
A Jewish Matchmaker reveals the nitty-gritty of nurturing love from a distance… Many of my clients assure me that they are open t...
NPD or Asperger’s?
July 24, 2016
A Jewish matchmaker discusses the surprising similarities… I often write about the red flags and damaging behaviors exhibited by ...
Soulmate and Lifemate – are they the same?
June 16, 2016
A Jewish Matchmaker talks soulmates and lifemates and how to spot the difference… Many years ago, I attended a lecture given by a...
The Truth about Women and Bad Boys
May 17, 2016
A Jewish Matchmaker takes on the myth of the ‘bad’ boy.. Over the years, I’ve heard many men (both clients and personal friends) ...
The Matchmaker’s Dilemma
April 12, 2016
Successful Matchmaking Depends on You! As a matchmaker, I’m often stumped as to how to get clients to stop treating the matchmaki...
Why Did He Disappear?
March 15, 2016
A Jewish Matchmakers Guide to “Ghosting”… Have you ever gone out on a date where everything “clicked”? The two of you had lots to...
The Economics of Love
February 12, 2016
A Jewish Matchmaker’s perspective on too many choices… There’s a phenomenon in Behavioral Economics called choice overload or “ov...
Compromising Yourself
January 07, 2016
A Jewish Matchmaker draws the line between compromise and self-sacrifice… When it comes to relationships, the give-and-take of co...
Rebuilding Trust
December 10, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Rebuilding Trust in Your Relationship Not everyone has the same approach to trust in a relationshi...
Best Face Forward
November 09, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker Wants to Know, What’s Up with your Profile Picture? When online dating first came on the scene, it was consid...
Intimacy After 50
October 14, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Embracing the Sexual Benefits of Aging… Let’s face it, aging can be ego-slamming. Maybe it started...
Keeping the Peace
September 11, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to discipline and the step-kids… One of the biggest considerations for divorced singles with children...
How to be Irresistible
August 05, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Being the Best Partner in the World… Okay, I admit it, “Best Partner in the World”? Maybe we’re sh...
Diffusing a Love Bomb
July 07, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker Distinguishes between Love and Love-bombing… Too often, I see singles who are swept away by early words of lo...
Dating Downtime
June 11, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to that Space “Between Relationships”… It’s written in Kohelet (Ecclesiastes) that “everything has an...
Afraid to Love
April 12, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker asks, could fear be holding you back? I have spoken with thousands of singles over the decade-plus that I’ve ...
Fearlessly Forward
March 08, 2015
A Jewish Matchmakers Guide to Learning to Trust Yourself… As a matchmaker, I find that many of my clients are shell-shocked from ...
Stop Looking for Love?
February 08, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker Busts the Myth… I would like to know who coined the phrase “You’ll find love when you stop looking for it.” ...
Make Me Over
January 14, 2015
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Profile Photos… The internet has taken dating to a whole new level and with the increased populari...
MATCHMAKING SUCCESS
December 15, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Getting the Most from your Matchmaker Everyone is their own unique blend of characteristics: wants...
10 Ways to Fall in Love with Yourself
November 13, 2014
A Jewish Matchmakers Guide to the love affair of all love affairs Are you ready for a real “happily ever after”? It may sound cor...
Crossing the Line
October 09, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Healthy Boundaries One of the most important factors to a healthy self-esteem and a healthy relati...
The Dating Profile
September 18, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Rant on Expecting Too Much This month’s blog topic stems from my own personal pent-up frustration of years ...
Don’t Take it Personally
August 08, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to “letting it slide…” The righteous indignation of taking things personally; we’ve all experienced i...
The Lure of an Office Romance
July 19, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Mixing Business with Pleasure There is something ultra-enticing about an office romance. Those lon...
Look Before You Leap
June 07, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Online Dating Safety Specialized dating sites target singles by religious orientation to conscious...
Excuses, Excuses, Excuses
May 19, 2014
A Jewish Matchmakers Guide to Recognizing Toxic Behavior The saying “love is blind” is not without its truth, its benefit, and it...
Love Yourself First
April 16, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to the Perfect Love Affair Love yourself. What does that even mean? Does it mean to always put your n...
Do Opposites Attract?
March 11, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Making it Work If opposites attract, then odds are an introvert and an extravert will be drawn to ...
Does Age Matter?
February 03, 2014
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to the May-December Romance May-December romances have always been a controversial topic and given to...
First Date Protocol
December 07, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Advice for Rockin’ a Great First Impression I’m often asked, “Is there a protocol for a first date?” Well, ...
“I Don’t Want Kids” – When Parenting Isn’t a Priority
November 20, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Busting the “Selfish” Myth Most of us have grown up around certain societal expectations: graduate...
A Graceful Exit
October 11, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Letting Go Break-ups are never easy. Even if you know it’s the right thing to do, there is still a...
Long-distance Relationships
September 16, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Love and Long-distance Relationships As a Jewish matchmaker, one of the first questions I ask a po...
Is it Love or Lust?
August 16, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Answers the Question; Is it Love or Lust? The beginning of a new relationship can be so exciting and distra...
Is Your Mr. Right Actually Mr. Wrong?
July 08, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Distinguishing Mr. Right from Mr. Wrong You think you’ve found the love of your life- the one you’...
Playing Hard to Get?
June 03, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Response to The Rules With the publication of The Rules, a relationship book for women, there has been a ri...
Dating after Divorce
May 12, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Dating After Divorce As a Jewish matchmaker, I’m often approached by newly-divorced singles who ar...
Is Money a Taboo Subject?
April 08, 2013
A Jewish Matchmaker’s Guide to Money Talk As a Jewish matchmaker I am often asked for advice from singles on the issue of how to...
How Much Should You Sacrifice for Him?
March 31, 2013
One of the greatest sources of frustration is how much we sacrifice for him, and how it can go completely unnoticed/unappreciated...
The BIGGEST Obstacle to SUCCESS
March 30, 2013
YOU are! That’s right! The biggest obstacle to success is YOU! Let me ask you:Are you still searching for your soulmate? Or…Are y...
Cheaters are Emotionally Dissatisfied
March 05, 2013
Are Cheaters Emotionally Dissatisfied? Many singles tell me that their last relationship ended because their partner cheated. Man...
Lessons on Dating and Relationships
March 04, 2013
Lessons on Dating and Relationships 1. If a man wants to be with you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing ...
